We want to personally welcome you to The Undivided Divorce. Like you, we define ourselves as many things based on our work, friends, significant others, and family. But, also probably like you, our most important roleis as a parent. Our boys are the center of our universe and truly the most important thing in our lives. Because of that, their health and happiness have always taken precedence over ours.This was never more evident for us than when we got divorced in 2002. After 14 years together, our relationship had become toxic to everyone in it, including our boys. We knew just how hard our split would be on them and how, without a doubt, it would alter the course of their lives forever.
What we've noticed since that time is that many parents, even though they would all emphatically swear that they would die for their children, end up using them as pawns and completely forgetting what's in their best interest when faced with the pain and anger of divorce. We're here to tell you that, with virtually no exceptions, that way of thinking and behaving will create not only more grief for you, but ongoing and damaging grief for your children.
We're betting that you're a parent, and that's why you're here. Maybe you're a single parent or you're going through a divorce. Maybe you're married and looking for answers to balancing it all. No matter what your story, we believe we have something valuable to offer you. We know we're passionate about changing the way families communicate and sharing the tools that have worked with us in the most difficult circumstances imaginable.
You can read our individual stories under the "About Us" tab at the top of the site.
Take a few moments, look around, subscribe to our online community, join the Facebook Fan Page, and make yourself at home. We're looking forward to personally supporting you as you navigate the tricky and ever-changing waters of parenting and family communications.