I'll never forget taking my boys to Disneyland as a single mom about a year after my divorce. While it was exciting prepping for trip, my heart was also heavy. David (my ex) and I had honeymooned in Disneyland and always dreamed of our first trip there as a family with our kids. We no longer had that family, and I mourned the loss. We even talked (and cried a little) about it the night before the boys and I left as they were saying goodbye to their dad. It was very hard to look forward at that point instead of looking back, but I knew I had to.
Divorce is excruciatingly painful and it can be hard to let go of something special you once shared with another. If you're having trouble letting go, here's some advice to help you get through this tough time.
Don't burn daylight:
Life goes on, whether it feel like it or not. You have to remember that and accept the fact that you have a job to go to, children to raise, and friends to see. Finding a way to put one foot in front of another is a huge step in itself, and if you can accomplish that, you can start to accomplish bigger goals.
Take out the negativity:
Don't tell yourself, "My life is over." Or "I've lost everything." Change the negative. Your life isn't over, you're starting a new beginning. Think positively and positive things will come.
Regret is a waste of time:
It is what it is. This saying has never been more true. You can't do anything about what you did before, but you can do a lot about what you're doing now. Keep in mind the saying, "Don't regret the things you did, regret the things you haven't done."